Monday, June 30, 2008

T- Minus 7 Days

Next Monday I will be 40.

I was oblivious at 20. 30 flew by as a newlywed and a new mom. And here I am staring at 40.

For the most part I'm ok with it. My health is good (as far as I know, knock on wood,) I have a great husband and great kids. We are quite comfortable in our life. I just have one question.

WHERE THE HELL DID THE LAST 2 DECADES OF MY LIFE GO?

Mentally I still feel like I'm in my mid-20's, but my body is starting to act otherwise. Some days I wake up and ask, "Who are these big kids? And what have you done with my babies?"

I can't possibly have a child that will be in college in the fall. No way.

Headless Dad is throwing me a bash for my birthday. So, on Saturday about 70 of our closest family, friends and their kids will be here to get drunk celebrate with us.

In the spirit of the day I would love y'all's advice for turning 40. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly- Lay it on me. Even from you lurkers, I want it all. I figure, if I'm having a party for myself I might as well go all the way and get it from all sides.

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Confidential to readers of Queen B: Reason #1- HB2 is allergic.

Headless Mom

15 comments:

sheasy said...

How exciting - a real milestone. My only advice is to always be proud of your age and never fib about it. It seemd, women who are open about their age appear way younger than women who try to step around it. Go, 40!!

Kendra said...

I am 42 and looking forward to (dreading) 40 was much worse than actually being 40. Congratulations!

Keetha said...

Thirty was the one that I found difficult - - - I've sailed through all the others since then - - - all TWENTY-FOUR of them!!!

I can't explain where they all go, now how so many can have passed while we still feel the SAME inside.

Kathy said...

Dude,
I thought I would hate 40! I freaking LOVE it! And what do I love about it?

I love that I know tons more crap than I ever thought I knew about life because now, all of my younger friends (and most of them are, given my late change of professions) look to me for guidance on a lot of things and I realize that most of what is coming out of my mouth are things that my mom told me and I sooo thought she was wrong when I was young and dumb. That makes me laugh.

I love the fact that I have realized what are the important things in life - family, family, family, faith and friends...rather than material satisfaction. I love the fact that I can now "get over it" and move on easier than I used to because of the realization of what is most important in life.

I love the fact that people (hopefully honestly) don't believe that I am 41 and believe me, you don't look 40 either :) And, I am proud of the fact that my mom doesn't look a day over 60.

I love the fact that I have committed myself to eating healthy and exercising and that my daughter gets why I do it! (And I know you get that given how hot you look!)

So, advice? Embrace it, own it, love it! It makes every day that much sweeter! It's just another step on the lovely journey of life. I guess it is all in the approach you choose! :)

Can't wait for the party - but what time??!

amy t sharp of doobleh-vay said...

I have not met you and have only seen snippets of pics- but you sound and look like a stunner who will not look 40 when i set eyes on you in san fran!!! yr happy and fabulous and enjoy and embrace this year of yr life- 40 is the new 21! xoxoxo

Soliloquy said...

May I recommend a boob job?

Heh.

Beachy Mimi said...

I LOVE my age, whatever it is. As I get older, I get somewhat smarter or at least more relaxed about life and have learned not to take stuff so seriously. It is just....stuff.
Congratulations on your milestone and have a great party.

Steph said...

Well, sadly I have no advice to give you, as you know...I'm not handling 38 as well as I would have hoped, because like you, I still feel like I am in my mid 20's. Ahem.

I'm rootin for you though! Because I know you're going to have great words of wisdom for us close followers just behind ya, in very short order... LOL

You go girl!

Sue @ My Party of 6 said...

I love 40 too. I finally feel like a grown up. (Before this, I always felt like I was in my 20s too.) I don't know it all and I'm not perfect, but I am totally ok with that now. (Maybe it's that natural respect that people have for the aged? I don't know.)

Seriously, it's great. Buy yourself a kick ass outfit and some awesome shoes and party down! Forty really is fabulous.

The Andrus' said...

All I can say is learn to laugh at yourself and everything else on the way! Have a great 40!

A Mom Two Boys said...

I can't really offer advice because I'm not 40 yet, but I can offer one word of wisdom:

Make sure you're ready to celebrate a few weeks late because we're gonna party like it's your 21st birthday again. Get ready.

Kelly said...

Good lord, I take off to Vegas for 3 days and I am back to 159 in my reader, BUT I went straight to YOURS!! I am in total DENIAL that all of my friends AND my husband are turning 40. I have never been much of a birthday person and I wouldn't be freaking about 40 if everyone else wasn't talking about it. I guess this is pay backs for all of you turning 16 and being able to drive before me, then turning 18 and being able to drink before me and then turning 21 and being able to drink AGAIN before me. So, I sit here wishing I could be at your bash, toasting your HOT bod, your stunning family and the grace that you have aged with. Headless, you will take F.O.R.T.Y. and make it fabulous, cheers from here!

My only advice is to continue to enjoy and embrace your life!!

love-n-40!!

Kel

Anonymous said...

you don't look 40 to me mom!!


I'm totally jealous of your pushup skills and determination to get fit. If only I could learn by example.


<3 headless girl
I totally did this on my iPod!!

ttelroc said...

I just popped in from the QB blog & so glad that I did.

It's funny - I married a man who is 10 years older and his bday is a month before mine. So I tend to focus on his big day and not mine. When we first met, he turned 40 and I turned 30. My 30 didn't seem as bad or as daunting since he just turned 40 LOL

Well, I'm 42 now and I have to say that I have really tried to embrace my 40's because I totally flew through my 30's. I flew through them so quick that I never got around to having kids.

I really like the new found freedom that I feel that I have being in my 40's. I have been going through a self improvement process for the past three years and I just love how I feel, how I look and how I love... I have pretty much decided to love more and boy does it feel great!

Have a wonderful Birthday!

Kristin

Karen said...

Happy Birthday!