Thursday, May 5, 2011

Double-Super-Secret Mother's Day

I love the concept of Mother's Day. I really do, but does any of us really and truly get all of the things that we want on that Sunday?

OK, the macaroni necklaces are awesome (not kidding,) but most moms still end up cooking/cleaning/being the disciplinarian/changing a diaper or two. And what about all of you single moms out there? You deserve Double-Super-Secret Mother's Day even more.

During my first year of blogging I remember seeing this on someone's blog. A day that we moms really took care of ourselves...especially if you still have very young children or are single. Here are the rules:
  • You can't do this on actual Mother's Day because usually your kids will want to do things for you. That's OK. Let it happen and enjoy it. OH! And don't get disappointed when you still have to change a diaper. That's what DSSMD is for.
  • Choose a day either during the week when the kids are in school or on a weekend that you can ship the kids to a friend or family member. Just tell them that you have errands to run. (It's kinda true.) Take a vacation day if you work and leave the kids in daycare.
  • Plan your day alone with your favorite book or magazine as your only pal. Or schedule it with a truly great friend. Whatever is going to make you relax!
  • Treat yourself to a mani/pedi/facial/massage. Or go out to lunch. Or to a chick flick. Or laying on a blanket in the park reading that book. Or shopping (window, or the more expensive variety, whatever is in your budget.) The key here is to do one, or two, or a dozen things that you usually don't/can't/won't do with your kids in tow.
  • Try to preplan all of the days details so you'll be totally free. Does that mean your kids might have McDonalds for dinner that night? Maybe, but easy and relaxed (For YOU) is the goal of the day. 
I haven't scheduled my own day yet becuase it totally snuck up on me, but rest assured that I will carve out ONE day between now and the end of the month. I'm totally taking this day because the kids will be out of school in a couple of weeks and then I won't get the chance again until August. A mental health day for me, if you will.

So schedule it and follow through. You deserve it, Mom!

Image courtesy of
Headless Mom


Keetha Broyles said...

I never "love" Mother's Day - - - it's the day when I remember all the things I could have done BETTER as a mom, and the day I realize I will NEVER measure up to those wonderful mothers the preacher always describes at church.

Headless Mom said...

Keetha- I have to respond to this publicly... You ARE a wonderful mother! You successfully raised FOUR children and are beginning to enjoy grandchildren. Your kids are happy, healthy, productive members of society. I bet dollars to donuts that the moms that the preacher is talking about are based on YOU. I'd be honored to be like you. For Mother's Day I hope that you feel special, loved, and proud of the years that you spent pouring into your children good values and the love of Christ. Please don't ever feel like you don't measure up because there are women out here that want to do it like you did. I bet there are a few other kids with names that start with K that would agree with me.

Love you, Lady!

Keetha Broyles said...

Thank you, Headless!

I think the issue isn't so much what kind of a mother I was as how HIGH of an idol those "other" mothers being described are.

I always grabbed right at the food with my children - - - I did NOT go hungry just so they could eat. (They had plenty to eat too, but I was no food sacrificer)

My house was OFTEN not spotless and spic and span. My dishes LOVED to reside in the sink waiting to be washed. We thought of dust as a protective coating on the furniture.

Sometimes I got really irritated with my kids and sent them to opposite ends of the house just for a moment's peace.

And yadda, yadda, yadda.

Yes, I loved them, kept them clean, and did my level best to keep them from killing each other.

But I was no Wonder Woman - - - and still am not.

That's what I meant.


Liz@thisfullhouse said...

All very great suggestions, as usual. Happy Mother's Day, my friend!!!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Sounds like a wonderful plan. Even with adult children I have to plan my Mother's Day and I do just that!! I give them a list too of things I might like! When I was a single mom I would let Mark take the kids so I could have the day to myself. Happy Mother's Day!