Saturday, July 26, 2014

Stuck in the MIddle

It's been 7 years since I started this blog, and six since my first BlogHer conference. I'm not OG. (I just found out what that meant. Original Gangster.) I'm not a newbie. I have many, many OG friends and many, many newbie friends. I'm stuck in the middle.

Last night I saw an old friend. I've connected with her many times at conferences and online. Shared a cocktail. But because of my own insecurities I've never really known how she felt about me. My policy has always been that since I'm not an OG I'm happy to stay in the background or on the fringes. Those relationships came before me and I understand that history sometimes trumps. I don't want to look like a squealing fangirl. That's not who I am.  

I stood on the edge of her circle to say hello, alternating between waiting for her conversation to end and having my own but not getting the chance to talk to her. A little while later when she saw me she jumped up and gave me the biggest hug and said how great it was to see me, it had been so long, and we've known each other for years! 

Like I usually do, I put my foot in my mouth, thinking that she must have mistaken me for someone else. No, she knew it was me. Her reaction was exactly what she wanted it to be; I was the insecure one.

To be perfectly clear, this person has never, ever done anything to make me feel not a part of the group. "It's not you, it's me," totally applies here. 

I may still be stuck in the middle in many ways but because of one woman's generous acceptance of me-acceptance that I never asked for nor expected, I feel like I belong. 


~ headless mom

Sunday, July 13, 2014


It's going to be a scorcher today. How do I know? Not from some smartphone app or a big busted weather girl. No, I know from being on my porch since about 5:30 this morning. There is not a cloud in the sky and as soon as the sun peeked over the fence it's been hot.

These are not the long shadows that I'm typically fond of. Those come in about 10 hours. These are the ones of quiet morning hours when the day is full of possiblility and the night wasn't full of sleep. The sleep interrupted by a child leaving at 4 in the morning and a puppy deciding that sleep shouldn't happen until the human had already had her 2 cups of coffee.

Her ears kill me and make me give in but tonight is going to be the night, once and for all, that she learn to sleep in her crate. My boys have taken the night shift but caved to her not sleeping in the crate. We need her to. We're busy and she will occasionally have to stay in it during the day too. 

But she's a puppy, and puppies are cute. And will easily persuade you that the floor is much nicer for sleeping than a crate with all the toys.

This is Libby. And the reason for my Sunday afternoon nap today in the air conditioned bliss of my living room. It's already hot out here.

~Headless Mom

Saturday, July 12, 2014

I'm baaack!

Welcome back. Well, to me anyway. I haven't intended to take such long breaks lately. I could say it's life, or kids, or the new puppy, but really? It's honestly just been laziness. 

The Nutshell: baseball, VBS, puppy, vacation. That's it. I have a few posts in draft that I may or may not ever get to. Well, except for one. You'll get that one. One of these days. 

More honesty? It's the damn games on my phone. And then HD won an iPad mini for me at a golf tournament and I've played a lot with it. (I'm even blogging from it right now. Have you tried to type on a mini keyboard? Holy hell this thing is tiny!) I have stopped plaing Candy Crush (for now anyway,) and am playing Spider Solitaire, Solitaire Blitz, and Candy Mania. It's the Candy Mania that has me hooked. Easier than CC but still challenging. You're welcome.

For vacation we went to Colorado, as usual. And predictably we had a great time. We were able to visit HG and Mr. HG at their NEW HOUSE! Seriously, they bought a house 6 months after they got married. It wasn't exactly in the plan but they were able to find something in their modest price range so they went for it. It's really cute and perfect for a first house. We spent time with them working in the yard and spoiling them a little since we don't live there. Take it from me- it's WEIRD  staying in your oldest child's home for the first time. Good weird, but weird, nonetheless. 

Also during our visit we threw my parents a small party for their 50th wedding anniversary. They invited their 'dinner group'-a group of couples that have been having dinner together on ?Friday nights for 5? 10? years. A couple of them are parents of kids that I went to high school with so it's fun to see them, but all of them feel like family now. And they have been family for my parents so I was honored to host them to celebrate my parents special milestone.

One of the fun things that we like to do there is go to a Coloado Rockies game-all 15 of us. (4 of us, parents, aunt, HG & Mr. HG, Brother and family, and another couple) This year we went on July 4th-my mom's birthday! The game sucked but the fireworks were probably the best we've ever seen. (Not counting when we were on a boat in Charleston Harbor,but I think I've told that story before.) It was a beautiful night. 

I turned the big 46 while I was there. Facebook is fun on birthdays. While I don't hinge all of my self-worth on how many people write on my wall, it is amazing to open all day and see message after message from friends near and far. It really made me smile. I also get invited to my mom's girls birthday luncheon. She and her friends go out for lunch all year for everyone's birthdays. I think there were 10 of us or so? I'm so lucky that I get included! Someday I'm going to have my own girls birthday lunch group! 

Now that I'm home I feel like summer is over. Not the hot weather part, but the fun vacation part. The boy's schedules are booked for the next month until they go back to school. Which, of course, means that mine is too. I do have one more trip planned, to San Jose for BlogHer, but I'll fill you in on that another day. 

Thanks for indulging my lack of posting but I'm back. For now anyway!

~ Headless Mom

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

School's Out. Need a good beach read?

The days of packing lunches, early wake up calls, PTA meetings, and signing homework logs are behind us.  Stretching ahead are long sunny days of SPF, sand between our toes, and if you're lucky, a boat drink or three. One of my favorite things to do in the summer is read. I don't often (make myself) read during the school year. Maybe late-onset ADD or something, but I can't seem to lose myself in a story when I have to drive the carpool in 5 minutes. Is that just me?

Anyway, I had a chance to read a book called The Hive by Gill Hornby this year and it was a HOOT! Never mind that it's set across the pond in England, you'll surely recognize these moms. The Queen Bee, the Single Mom, the Follower, the Disinterested, among others. I certainly saw myself in a few scenes as well. Ahem. Gill's sense of humor has put her other books on my list and I can't wait to dive in. You should too! I actually can't wait to read it again this summer. It's already in my beach bag!


Where to buy The Hive: (Not affiliate links.) It is currently available in hardback and digital editions, with paperback being released in the US on August 26, 2014. It's already available in paperback if you're in the UK. Lucky.
Barnes and Noble

Where to find Gill on the web:
Facebook (You can also read an excerpt from The Hive here!)

Thank you to Little, Brown, and Company, Meghan Deans and Gill Hornby for the opportunity to review this book. It is long over-due. My sincere apologies. The book itself was the only thing I received in exchange for this review. All opinions are my own.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Why I Continue Blogging... (part 2)

Nothing like starting a 2 part post and then dropping off the face of the earth. Sorry y'all. If you don't know what I'm talking about you can go and catch up by clicking here.

Connecting the dots to new friends with old connections. Yes, that's where I left off.

Every conference or event that I attend now I get to meet someone new. Sometimes that someone is a friend of a friend, sometimes just a stranger that I sit next to in a session. Occasionally you don't even have to be at an event to meet the people there.

"Huh? She's gone off the deep end with that one." I guess I'll have to explain.

My good friend Carmen was at an event in March and met the women there. During introductions, one of the other attendees mentioned that she lived in the same town as I do. Twitter intros ensued and a few weeks later I have a brand new blogging friend in my very own home town.

Meet Caryn of The Midlife Guru. Turns out that we have a few other mutual friends, were at the Blissdom conference at the same time last year, and have lots and lots in common. Who knew that a frozen yogurt meet-up would last for 1 1/2 hours with promises of other events and more yogurt?

This is what I love about blogging. Our blogs grow and change and bring us face to face with new friends that we would never have met otherwise. That's why I keep at it.