Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Not Getting Better

First, I wrote about why I hate the month of May.

Then I verbally vomited the suck that was my weekend. And started my period. (Is it any wonder that I wrote that yesterday? I know. *sigh*)

Then, today I went to bowling with high hopes of snapping out of my funk. I typically enjoy seeing my friends and getting out of the house for a few hours. Not today.

There is someone on my league that I have a hard time with. I've known her for several years and time has not softened my outlook on this particular relationship. She is highly competitive, where I go bowling for fun. She creates drama wherever she goes; I tend to shy away from conflict. She is controling; I could care less. We couldn't be more opposite.

There has been literally dozens of times over the years that I've had this blog that I've wanted to write about her antics and shied away from it. I'm not really sure why... I guess it's that conflict thing.

Anyway, today we learned that she had made a decision for our league that she had no power or authorization to make and it really pissed me off. The worst part about it is that I let it get to me while we were bowling and I bowled like crap. My first game was a 104, second a 133, and third a 114. (My average is 140. Those games were awful, thankyouverymuch.) We lost 3 of four games. 2 weeks ago we were in first place and after today we'll be in third, thanks to me. I cannot believe that I let it get to me like that.

I have let it go in general but I'm tired of letting it go. She causes problems. It's not fair to the rest of the league. And it's not fair that I can't get over it faster. Yes, I know that is MY issue, but it's still not right for one woman to cause so many problems for so many other people.

Headless Mom


Anonymous said...

I had a 'friend' like that once. I finally decided that I was much happier and felt better about myself when I wasn't surrounded by her drama and antics. We occasionally say 'hello', but I think the friendship had run its course and it was time to move on. I've never regretted that decision.

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Bowling was hard. I find myself going over it in my head all the time. I hate that she does this to use but I don't know how we can change it. ((HUGS))

Liz@thisfullhouse said...

You mean, people bowl for serious rather than fun?!? Wonder if she's as competitive in other aspects of her life. Or, is bowling her life? I'm sorry that you didn't have fun, this time.

HolyMama! said...

maybe you're tired of letting it go because it's not time for that approach anymore and it's time to LET HER HAVE IT and just go kinda assertive, aggressive, in YO face on her. she'll be shocked. since you're not usually like that.

and i'd love to read about it!

full disclosure: i suspect i'm just like you and let things go but then when i'm really through - i shall confront in the name of all that is RIght and Just.